I have a friend who is extremely independent. She has always been indeed since the first year I met her. But there are some differences. I don’t know if she has always been like this but I never noticed or she has changed. When we became teenagers, we were in the same class. And in the first time after five years, we got a chance to do a project together and she shocked me. I did not see the creative, kind, responsible , caring and open-minded girl I used to know. But right there, in front of me was a self-centered and careless girl.
My ex from a fourteen year relationship occasionally worked odd hours, I’d call him at work to ask what he wanted for dinner and to cheer him up a bit. Then, over the course of three months, there would be ad hoc times when I’d call his desk phone but get no answer so I’d call his mobile, initially thinking he had probably finished earlier than anticipated and was on his way home (and to check that he wasn’t keeping me hanging while he went off to the pub without telling me).
So I’d call his mobile and ask ‘where are you?’. A few times he would indeed ‘be on his way home’ – yet things were off. I’d never told him that I could often tell when he was lying, he had a certain smugness about him when he did it, sometimes he would even have a particular smirk that he would do when he thought I wasn’t looking (and I can ‘hear’ someone’s facial expression when they are on the phone – probably due to many work hours and long distance boyfriends in the past). He would claim that he had just left the office yet there would be dead silence in the background, none of the usual urban sound of cars going by or his footsteps on the pavement etc.
Or he would be ‘walking to the train station’ but I could here someone in court shoes clearly keeping step beside him for the duration of the call. I began to chat even longer just so I could listen to what was going on around him. I didn’t let on and he grew ever bolder. He started telling me that he was still at his desk. Lol. He worked in an open plan cavernous office yet he was clearly in a small enclosed area when he answered the phone – even in silence the two sound distinctly different. Sometimes he even answered the phone and chatted to me whilst lying on his back.
I did eventually confront him (there were plenty of other clues too) and I used the fact that I had previously called his desk phone immediately before reaching him on the mobile for the last three months as one of the reasons I believed he was having an affair at work. What I didn’t tell him was the fact that I could also read the background noise so I knew he wasn’t where he claimed to be. Two weeks later he called from work one night to say that he had missed out on getting a pizza delivered to work for dinner (something he never did) and the pizza delivery guy had given up trying to call on his desk phone to get the front door opened – but the phone never rang.
Her mind was full of idea as ever, but she was no longer open-minded. If she said she want to do this, everyone must do just as she said. She never failed to find a very little flaw of the other members’ idea. It was so hard to contact her, she said she turned of the notifications because she wanted to stay away from the media. But what did she actually do was scrolling down Twitter. She always forgot to do her parts in every single projects so the rest of us were very busy either doing her parts two nights before the presentations or calling and texting her about the progress of her own parts.